COACHING FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DONE
You’re smart, capable, and outwardly successful - but inside, something still contracts.
You’ve clocked the conditioning.
You’re tired of being agreeable.
You crave boundaries that hold.
You want to stop performing and start leading from truth.
And if you’re honest, you’re furious - at the system, at the double standards, and at how often you still end up carrying the load anyway.
This isn’t about fake-it-til-you-make-it confidence (nonsense).
It’s about releasing the roles you were taught to play, building self-trust you can rely on, and becoming the woman you are underneath the shoulds - with boundaries and voice that actually hold.
You’re in the right place if…​
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You always say yes, even when it drains you
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You overthink every boundary you set
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You feel resentful, then guilty, then burnt out
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You’ve read ALL the books, but you’re still stuck
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I coach women at all 5 Eras. Most private clients are in the Rebel → Sovereign transition - awake, done performing, learning to choose themselves without guilt.
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The 5 Eras are the stages women move through as they deprogramme the “be good” training and come home to themselves: Good Girl → Navigating → Rebel → Sovereign → Unf*ckwithable.
You’re not broken.
You were conditioned to perform safety.
And it’s time to stop paying for it with your energy, your time, and your peace.
Coaching That Cuts to the Core
My work is about remembering.
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Remembering who you were before you learned to make yourself smaller. Before you learned that being good was safer than being real. Before you started carrying everyone else's comfort at the expense of your own.
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I don't hype you up. I don't hand you scripts and send you off to perform a bolder version of yourself. I help you see the conditioning clearly - where it came from, what it cost you, and what becomes possible when you stop letting it run the show.
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As a Chartered Organisational Psychologist and coach with 25+ years of experience, I hold deep, trauma-aware coaching containers that unpick people-pleasing and over-functioning, build emotional boundaries that actually hold, rewire your relationship with guilt, shame, rest and worth, and strengthen your voice so you speak earlier, cleaner and with less fear.
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Not fixed. Not perfect. Finally, fully yourself.
What Changes First
Before your boundaries shift…
Before your confidence grows…
Before you reclaim your voice…
Something gentler begins.
You realise it was never “just you”.
You stop feeling broken and start feeling human.
You understand where the self-doubt came from - and why it was never yours to carry.
You feel less alone.
You feel seen.
You feel your breath drop lower in your body.
And from that safer place inside yourself, the Rebel stops turning on you.
Your choices get cleaner.
Your voice gets steadier.
And everything else begins to shift.
Your Coaching Journey
This is a 12-week private coaching container for women who are ready for depth, acceleration, and real-life change.
We start where you are - Good Girl, Navigating, Rebel, Sovereign, Unf*ckwithable - and we work with what’s actually happening in your life right now.
Over 12 weeks, we do three things:
1) Map the pattern
We identify the roles you slip into, what triggers them, what they protect you from, and what they cost you.
This is where the self-blame drops - because you can finally see the system, the conditioning, and your nervous system strategies clearly.
2) Build what holds
We create boundaries you can keep, language you can use, and a decision framework you can trust.
Not theoretical. Not “say this script and hope for the best.”
Practical tools, practised in the moments that matter.
3) Practise sovereignty
We integrate the change so it holds under pressure - in meetings, relationships, parenting, leadership, conflict, visibility.
This is how Rebel energy becomes Sovereign self-leadership - and how Unf*ckwithable becomes a lived direction, not a performance.
What’s included:
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12 weeks
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6 x 75-minute private sessions (fortnightly)
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Between-session support (Mon–Thu, 24–48 hr response) via email or voice note
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One “Live Moment” option - a 15-minute support call for an upcoming conversation, decision, or boundary moment
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A personalised Sovereignty Toolkit (boundaries, scripts, decision framework)
Investment
£2,400 pay in full
or 3 payments of £800
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Prefer to start smaller?
A single Rebel Reset Session is available for one decision, boundary plan, or pattern snapshot with clear next steps.
£300
Still Not Sure?
That’s allowed.
Ambivalence is part of the transition - especially if you’ve spent a lifetime being rewarded for staying small and safe.
If you’re curious but hesitant, book a clarity call. We’ll talk through what you’re dealing with, what you’ve already tried, and whether private coaching is the right next step. If it’s not, I’ll tell you.
Here’s What People Are Saying About
Coaching with Me …
Compassion and courage - with stretch and accountability
“Michelle is a phenomenal coach - the right balance of compassion and support with stretch and accountability. She acts with integrity and I trust her wholeheartedly.”
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Angela Wren, Chartered Psychologist
Compassion with razor-sharp insight
“Michelle is unfailingly generous and compassionate, sharing her time, humour and insights with women all over the world. She helps them to discover the mechanisms - both societal and individual - that have been holding them back and preventing them from living more authentic lives. Her work is not only inspiring but truly revolutionary in the very best sense, and I cannot recommend her more highly as both a speaker and a coach.”
Tamara-Diana Braunstein, International Educator | Freelance Writer and Editor
Calm, trust, confidence and clarity
“Michelle brought a calm, supportive presence and really listened, helping to build confidence and clarity at a time when it mattered most. What stood out was her genuine care and ability to create trust quickly. The transformation was observable.”
Ian Burke, Head of People & Culture
Common Questions
​Is this therapy?
No. This is coaching. It’s trauma-aware and shame-literate, grounded in evidence-based thinking, and focused on pattern change, real-life implementation, and self-leadership.
What if I’m too angry?
Anger is information. We work with it cleanly - without letting it burn you, turn inward, or run your decisions.
What if I already know all this?
Knowing isn’t the same as being able to live it under pressure. This container is about integration - what you do in the moments that matter.
What if people react badly when I change?
We plan for pushback. We practise language. We build steadiness. You learn how to stay with yourself when other people dislike your boundaries.
How private is this?
Completely confidential. This is a high-trust container.
What if I wobble halfway through?
Wobble is part of the transition. We use it as data - and you learn repair rather than self-attack.​
Ready to stop fighting yourself?
If you can feel the part of you that’s done negotiating with your needs, I’d love to work with you.
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Or, if you have a straightforward question, get in touch: michelle@deprogramming.company