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GOOD GIRL DEPROGRAMMING

The book! Coming 2023

A look at how 'society' keeps women and girls 'behaving' through the use of coercive control.


How we can unlearn all of this and learn to 'misbehave'?

Good Girl Deprogramming: Welcome

WHAT IS 'GOOD GIRL' CONDITIONING?

"Good girl" conditioning is a term that is often used to describe a set of societal expectations and norms that are imposed on girls and women. It refers to the idea that girls and women are expected to be compliant, and polite, and to prioritise the needs and wants of others over their own. This conditioning can manifest in many ways, including:

BEING TAUGHT TO PRIORITISE THE NEEDS AND WANTS OF OTHERS OVER THEIR OWN

Girls and women are often taught to put the needs and wants of others before their own, which can lead to feelings of neglect or resentment.

BEING TRAINED TO BE COMPLIANT AND NOT SPEAK UP FOR THEMSELVES

Girls and women are often taught to be quiet and go along with what others want, making it difficult for them to assert themselves and speak up for their own needs.

BEING CONDITIONED TO BE POLITE AND NOT EXPRESS ANGER OR AGGRESSION

Girls and women are often taught that it is not acceptable to express anger or aggression, which can make it difficult for them to assert themselves and advocate for their own needs.

BEING FORCED TO CONFORM TO TRADITIONAL GENDER ROLES AND EXPECTATIONS

Girls and women are often expected to conform to traditional gender roles, such as being nurturing and caregiving, which can limit their opportunities and aspirations.

BEING EDUCATED INTO BELIEVING THAT THEIR WORTH AND VALUE ARE BASED ON THEIR APPEARANCE AND SEXUAL ATTRACTIVENESS

Girls and women are often taught that their worth and value are based on their physical appearance and sexual attractiveness, which can lead to body image issues, low self-esteem and self-worth.

Good Girl Deprogramming: List

CAN WE DEPROGRAMME?

Yup. But it's not going to be easy!

I've pulled all the info together in one book, so you don't have to go searching for it! 

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Good Girl Deprogramming: About

WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL?

Albert Biderman was a social scientist with the US Air Force. In 1957, after speaking to prisoners of war, who returned from Chinese communists who ran the North Korean camps, he published his ‘Chart of Coercion’.

The camp interrogators used ‘coercive control’ to undermine the prisoner’s physical and psychological strength. 


His ‘Chart of Coercion’ demonstrates and explains the coercive methods of stress manipulation used to control prisoners of war.


It has since been applied to explain coercive techniques used by perpetrators of domestic violence. 

I'm looking at how these same techniques are used by 'society' to keep women and girls "behaving".

These are the techniques identified by Biderman:

ISOLATION

To keep us apart from others

MONOPOLISATION OF PERCEPTION

To keep our attention on ourselves and our faults

INDUCED DEBILITY & EXHAUSTION

To weaken our mental and physical ability to resist

FORCING TRIVIAL DEMANDS

To develop a habit of compliance

OMNIPOTENCE

To make resistance seem futile

PUNISHMENTS & REWARDS

To provide positive motivation for compliance

THREATS

To cultivate anxiety and despair

HUMILIATION AND DEGRADATION

To make the cost of resistance damaging

Good Girl Deprogramming: List

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